I realized I hadn't posted in ages and sent a friend an email with an update on what's going on with me so I'm going to be lazy and just paste most of what I sent her! Text follows:
Speaking
of exercise, I’m with you on that too.
Part of the problem is that Chris has been dragging his feet on getting
my home office back on its feet after he trashed it by using it as a crap depository
while I was in the hospital and rehab last year, so I’ve pretty much been
living in this recliner in my living room since I have a laptop stand to do my
work (and write this email!) He HAS to
get it back up and running before Tuesday though because now that he finally
has a job (he has a job! More about that in a bit!) I’m allowing us to go back
to having a cleaning person come once a month so I need to be back there so
they can clean the rest of the rooms. It’s
probably going to sound weird, but I feel like I’m going to get more exercise
naturally by being in the back of the house because I’ll have to walk around
more to get to things, plus I bought a foot pedal elliptical thing that’s going
to live back there with my dumbbells and weighted ball, etc. so I’ll seriously
have no excuse at that point.
Another
upside to being back there is I’ll cook more since I’m right off the kitchen. I did make a pot roast the other day and I’m
going to make a pork loin tonight.
Before that, all we’ve eaten was takeout and not only is that bad for
you, but it’s expensive, especially since I’ve been paying for everything for
the last fifteen months. Now we’ll be
eating better and it will be cheaper so that’s motivating. Now that he’ll be working again, the less
money we spend on food the more he will be paying me back since he owes me
like, $50K from the last year and a half – no kidding. But he got a great job at Graef, which has
these really cool offices in the Grand Avenue mall and he’s actually going to
be getting paid more than he ever has so that’s really motivating for him. Even though I know he was getting pretty
comfortable not working, I know that it wasn’t doing his ego any good.
It’s
actually been kind of an adjustment for me too these last two weeks that he’s
been working, because I’ve realized that I really counted on him just being
around and able and willing to do things like running errands, getting me
lunch, etc. But it’s only good for me
because I need to get back to being more independent. It’s amazing how one can so easily backslide when
health things happen. While I kind of
loved the pandemic because it was a great excuse to lean into being an
introvert it also really did a lot of damage in terms of my mobility, etc. And
then tack on my health issues and we’re here where I’m at now.
I actually
took a big step toward gaining some independence recently though; my driver’s
license had expired back in 2020 and I hadn’t renewed it so I didn’t drive and
Chris used my beloved car (I have a black Volkswagen Tiguan SUV with vanity
plates that I just adore) these last six years because it’s a lot better than
his old Acura. Well, the week before he
started his new job, I grabbed my walker, we went to the DMV and I renewed my
license. Then I had to get some labs
done for my doctor so we went there afterward, and instead of Chris getting me a
chair and wheeling me around, I used my walker there too. I also got a disabled parking hanger tag
thingy with the idea that I start going places, getting out and walking, but I
know I can’t walk much so I’m being realistic.
I know that “normal” people would probably roll their eyes at these “achievements”
but you know what? It’s progress, and it’s
a step.
Well I’ve
gone on and on – I’d love to hear how you’re doing again whenever you’re ready
to talk. And don’t ever hesitate to call
or text me if you want – 414-750-5125.
We can still be accountability partners!
We can check in once a week or once every two weeks, come up with goals
for ourselves – no matter how big or small and no matter what it entails – and then
tell each other how we did after a week or two, and then set our next
goals. I’ll even start:
My goals
from 4/24 through 5/3 (today through next Sunday)
- Cook 7 out of 10 dinners
(includes leftovers)
- Meal prep lunch for both
Chris and I on the weekend for the following work week
- Starting 4/29 – do 30
minutes of exercise per day (and log what I’m doing to keep myself honest!)
- Read two books
- Watch as many films on
my “leaving the Criterion Channel” list as possible before 5/1
- Call the hair salon and
see if I can get in so they can deal with my hot mess of hair and
eyebrows!
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